Have you ever had the feeling that something good was about to happen?
Do you get that feeling often?
Imagine if you felt that way All the time!
Well, that’s what “serendipitous living” is like. It’s living in a constant state of anticipation that something good is about to happen. How wonderful that would be, right!
But most of us live in a state that’s opposite of that, don’t we? We’re always anticipating the worst. Especially when something bad has already happened. We start thinking “ok what else is gonna go wrong next?” OR “How much worse is this going to get?” We’re literally waiting for something else to go wrong. But why do we do this to ourselves? Why, when something goes wrong do we automatically start thinking it’s going to get worse? It’s like that old saying “when it rains, it pours.”
Well I for one am tired of this way of thinking and am ready for a change. I would much rather live serendipitously. How about you?
Wouldn’t life seem less stressful? Perhaps even more meaningful?
So how do we go about changing the way we think and live? Well I’m going to tell you.
One way is to start telling yourself to think a different way. No, seriously, first decide what bad or negative thinking habit you want to try to change. Then come up with a positive sentence that you can tell yourself instead. This is called an ‘affirmation’ or a ‘mantra’. Some examples of mantras could be “I am worthy of great things.” or “Today, I choose to be happy.”. Your mantra can be anything you want it to be. Just don’t make it something negative, that would defeat the purpose of this. But just choosing your mantra isn’t enough. You must take time every day to review and repeat it. If you don’t do this then the message won’t sink in. Try to repeat your mantra throughout the day or whenever you catch yourself having a negative thought.
Next, try to change the things that you do. Its very difficult to change your perspective on things. More so if you’re doing the same things over and over for a long time. Start small, you’d be surprised at how the smallest of things can make a big difference. Try something new, like an activity that you’ve always wanted to do. Or go somewhere you’ve never been to before. By making just a small change to your normal routine, your brain gets exposed to new stimuli and will create new neural pathways to facilitate change.
It’s hard to change the way you think, especailly if you aren’t sure of the way you currently think. It’s easy to go through life without challenging old beliefs or preconceptions and your negative self talk that is overdue for an update. It can be very scary for you to acknowledge and explore your thoughts and emotions. So we usually focus on whats outside of ourselves. But by turning our focus inward we can become more self aware and that can help us to see our true needs and can create big life change.
So let’s decide right here and now to make an effort to change how we look at life. These small steps can really make a big difference. And perhaps put us on the path to serendipitous living.
Have you tried any of these techniques? If so, I would love to hear about your experiences with them. Do you know of any other ways to change the way we think? Share them in the comments below.